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Holding her breath, she stood stalk still, she didn’t want to listen, but she couldn’t help but overhear the conversation in the hall.  Her husband was talking to another woman as they approached the doorway she had been about to enter. As they got closer, she heard her husband’s voice lower, the way he did when he was going to tell her something endearing.  The woman’s laugh was soft and pleasing, she couldn’t quite make out what her husband had said, but she did hear him call her darling.   She froze, a chill ran down her spine, and all the happiness she had felt just a few minutes before evaporated. She didn’t continue on her journey and join them, instead she prayed they wouldn’t see her.. and leaned back hoping to remain out of sight.

When their footsteps faded as they descended the staircase to the reception area, she retreated back into the powder room.  Her shoulders slumped, her head bowed, she let the sadness wash over her.  How? when? why? she asked herself, somehow she couldn’t accept that her husband was unfaithful, yet she had heard him call the  woman darling, and…… oh dear what was she to do….

A knock on the door startled her back to the moment…”everyone is waiting for you Millicent are you coming down?”  Her sister voice was familiar, she felt the love and concern, “you’ve been gone for a while, is everything alright?”  Straightening her shoulders, she looked at the woman in the mirror and smiled, it didn’t reach her eyes, but it would do.  Her sister gave her a small hug, linked arms with her and together they descended the wide staircase.

SURPRISE!…Happy Birthday everyone cried out, laughing and throwing confetti at her, balloons were everywhere..  Standing at the bottom of the steps with his arms stretched out in welcome was her husband, and next to him  a woman who looked familiar but she couldn’t place.  “Darling” her husband said as he drew  her into his arms with a loving hug, ” we have a surprise for you” … turning to the petite little brunette beside him, he said ” remember little Maggie, meet the very  grown up Maggie”  Feelings of joy and happiness washed over her, little Maggie, the little baby she had cared for till the family moved away.  What a wonderful surprise, this is who her husband had been talking to,   “Darling, are you alright?” her husband leaned over with concern in his voice.  What a fool she had been, she had not listened to all that was being said, and she had not walked out and greeted them when the were coming down the hallway, instead, she had let herself react to the few words she heard, and let her own insecurities sweep her into a total heartbreak moment.

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When we listen to music we listen to all the notes, when we listen to others speak, we should be sure of what we heard before we react, not always easy, but it is worth the effort if it is important to our mental health.  Live today to your fullest.

 Namaste   -Oyashikiri

 

 

 

 

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** painting found on fashion-era.com

Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind

PL teaching day 30 > Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind.  >When we are listening to someone, give them your fullest attention. Turning your body towards them, listen for the feeling behind their words so that you can truly understand what they are trying to tell you. >Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind.  

It starts out innocent enough, our partner/boss or friend says something to us while we are busy working on a project or intent on something else.  We heard part of what was said, think we understand,  grunt, or reply in agreement and continue with what we are doing.  We don’t stop what we are doing, and turn to listen to exactly what is being said, or why.( Remember that expression, listening with half a mind).   At that moment, we really have no idea what we agreed to, or didn’t agree to.  So later when something is expected of us, or we say something that provokes a very negative response in our partner,boss or friend, we are taken aback.  We really haven’t a clue.  AND depending on what the situation is/was, it can cause hard feelings, missed appointments, disappointment.  When all it would have taken, was a few moments of consideration on our part, when addressed, to stop and listen with full attention, or to excuse one’s self and ask that the party wait a few moments, while you freed yourself from your current task.  Remember –  listen with an open heart and mind.

PL teaching for day 30 – Listen with Your Heart and Your Mind

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Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind

When you are listening to someone, give them your fullest attention.  Turning your body towards them, listen for the feeling behind their words so that you can truly understand what they are trying to tell you.

Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind.  Today’s Perfect Liberty teaching.  I start each day reading the daily teaching and try to carry it as best as I can throughout my day.  Doing this every day, you find that soon it becomes the natural way to respond and you develop  a greater understanding and connection to the person(s) you interact with.  How many times have you found yourself in a conversation that is one sided?  Someone will ask how you are, and before you can really answer they have launched into their own recounting of what has happened to them.  At such times I realize that the person’s need to share information and have someone listen is what is important in that moment.  I listen.  Not always, but more often then not, in listening, I hear not only the words but the feelings that accompany those words.  For that space in time, there is a connection between the person talking, and myself.  It might have been a sad story, an anxiety expressed, a happy moment retold, whatever it was, for me it was a moment shared.  I feel glad and happy to have been able to share that moment in time with my family  member/friend/acquaintance.  My happiness and comfort in sharing, transfers to the person I’m interacting with, when we can connect with another individual in a personal way, a sharing way, that is a real “hug”

Too often in life we say love, hugs and kisses, or make affectionate  sounds, but do we really feel the “comfort” and “joy” (closeness)

Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind.

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