If you drive you know all about the emergency brake, and how and when to use it. But what about own behaviour, do we have the owner’s manual handy for our “self-control” Do we know where it and how to employ it when a situation or circumstances get out of hand,
We have all had moments when we have been confronted with an angry person, we’ve seen the facial signals, the change in body stance, perhaps you’ve had such instances yourself where you’ve felt the anger build, and you simply want to vent.Shove off…………… Stay off my patch …………….. leave me alone ………………..you are ticking me off ………………. I said NO ! For sure we know this is not the face of kindness, or an invitation to come closer for a hug. This “Being” is clearing expressing his/her mood at the time of the picture.
Nor is this a sign of wanting company, or your interference. Very clear signs, why do we ignore them, think we know best, or want to have our needs met when the other person is unresponsive. Someone once said to me, when her spouse had just such a face… “I don’t understand, I’m happy and want him to be happy” We are not always on the same page at the same time. And another person’s mood may have absolutely nothing to do with us. Respecting someone else’s space is so very important, in all relationships/ interactions. family, friends or otherwise.
Donald has the right idea here, this is the “talk to the hand” signal… It means, stop, I no longer want to listen, “talk to the hand” A friend once explained this to me, I’d never seen it before. She was a manager of an office, and had to listen to a lot of flack at times, when she had enough, she would raise her hand, like Donald is doing, and we would know, she’d reached her limit.. it said give me a break, come back another time.. I’ve used this over the years, it saves a lot of grief. gives all parties a chance to just chill, reflect and calm down.
Find your emergency brake and when you need to use it… Please do so… activate it…. spare others around you that negative moment that is yours to alone to own.
Love is unconditional, we are loved no matter what our mood, or actions are. It is just easier for everyone when we learn to take ownership of our actions, and discover an appreciation for a quieter state of mind.
Namaste – Oyashikiri