There is no expiring date on grief….grieving is something that happens and we have no control of how it will affect us or for how long we will live with the emptiness and sense of loss.
Its a door that just never closes… a pain that seeps into every nook and cranny of your being. Just when you think you’ve moved on, when you feel the sun on your face, or a chirping bird sits on your shoulder, yes there is that moment of awe and pleasure, but… it passes… then the shadow slips in, and you feel the burden of the pain, the emptiness of loss.
“Time heals” you hear it time and time again.. yet as the years go by, when you least expect it… a sliver of the cold grief wraps around your heart once again. There is nothing to be done… it will pass. It does, but let me tell you, from the moment the icicle begins to drips its glistening tear, you are engulfed in the hopeless feeling of loss. The shattered pieces of your heart lie like broken shard with edges that are still too sharp to even begin to pick up.
You can’t go back .. you can’t retreat, you can only accept and live through the moment. The more you seek solitude, the more it eludes you. Love that endures, love that wraps its tentacles into forever, is beautiful, but it has a cost. How many moments were squandered, lost to foolish pride/ego. The seasons will change. and yes, you will get by, you will live another day… But oh… how crippling the grief is when it comes to call.
Make today a memorable day. Let’s try to put our whole heart into whatever we say or do, as our unique signature.
I have been a couple of years trying to find out the name of the bird(s) that I would see driving down the dead end road to one of the woodland areas I go to. Finally … Dan Cadieux, (Wildlife photographer) who you’ve met on this site gave me the name of the bird. I was at the site where he had just seen one, and was patiently waiting for it to come back, it had come and scared off the smaller birds. He did finally get a picture later that morning, I hope to share it with you soon. This was just down from where I would usually see them “hanging out”… when I looked the bird up.. YES .. I recognized it right away. Patience ..!
Use money and things usefully and enthusiastically. Money and things are materials for self expression. Use them joyfully with appreciation.
Perfect Liberty 2022.25
If you charge it, it will shine someday. Was it a mistake that your cell phone ran out of charge at an important time? We must never run out of the charge of dedication. Let’s make our individuality shine by using the steadily piled up charging of effort for the sake of the world.
So far we have had a foot of snow and it is only 10:51a.m. it is forecast to snow till around 8 pm this evening. I did manage to get out to where the crows will gather if I put out food. It was shorty after 7 a.m. it was as you can see very overcast, and snowing when I ventured out. It was snowing lightly, as the day progresses the snowfall is heavier.
Start today with a fresh outlook. even though people and situation may look the same, they are constantly changing. Start each day with a fresh mind.
Perfect Liberty 2022.17
Driving was slow and visibility was awful. Took my time, fortunately I live near main roads, and was able to pretty much follow plows all the way to where I was headed. I did not dilly dally, as soon as they were fed I came back home.. drove into my garage, got out.. shovelled in front of my garage (a car’s length) and my steps leading up to the veranda.. Used the remote to close the garage door, and came inside to the warmth and comfort of my home.. where I plan on staying till tomorrow. 5 minutes after I got in, the contractor came by with the plow to do the first run of my laneway.
Where ever you are today, enjoy the day, make good use of your time. I roasted a turkey leg with baby spuds, that will be my lunch.
Stay safe, stay warm, and be mindful of all that is the world around you.
How we age, our acceptance of the changes to our physical “selves”, our mental awareness of these changes, and how we have catalogued our experiences and assimilated life “lessons”… will always elude our “present” state of mind.
I am doing a project that involves “anatomy” do you know when you research the male anatomy and then the female anatomy the results are very different. We are different, both human .. but very different in our makeup and how we are perceived.
What interested me the most.. what stood out (pardon the pun) was that the male anatomy pictures all showed, except maybe 1 or two, the member in the state of arousal. It was getting late and I had plowed through maybe 3, 4 dozen pictures.. as I told a friend, I thought I was going through a car parts inventory it got so boring.
Reminded me that.. one should never focus on just one issues, or fact.. but to try always to see the full picture, to understand the circumstance one finds oneself in. LOL sorry if my example is a little “wonky” this morning, blame it on all the research*.
A cheerful smile and expression makes everyone around you happy. When you do everything with a smile, not only you but the people around you will feel good. Always remember to put on a happy face.
Perfect Liberty 2014. 15
Face the speaker, make eye contact and listen carefully. Listening to people is also a form of expression. Listen with Makoto (sincerity)
Perfect Liberty 2022.15
research sites, are plenty when it comes to the male anatomy who knew!
Even if you have done it many times before, put your full heart into it. When we are doing something, especially if its a small or easy task, we tend to get sloppy. Let’s put our whole heart into everything we do, even if its something as simple as pushing a button.
Perfect Liberty 2014.14
I have no likes or dislikes Even for those who say “I’ll have anything” there are things that I love ” I don’t see many people getting sick without eating what they don’t like, but I often see people getting sick from eating too much of what they like. The same goes for hobbies. It is a human path that doesn’t touch and stay.
translated in Japan to English.. 2022.01.14
PL Precept # 20 Live maintaining equilibrium between mind and matter.
Think of the timing before you say …”but” When stating your opinion, make sure you are being respectful of others’ opinions. Be mindful of this when you speak.
Being Thursday I realized it was Thursday Doors, this year I thought to maybe explore a door that grabbed my attention and discover why it did. Doors are needed to enter and leave a building but for me they also add character to the site/location. This door was off a main street of a small tourist town, I was taken by the owner’s use of natural woods to use in the window box in front of the big picture window. Decorative it allows light in, but gives privacy to the occupants inside. The door is an old wooden door with decorative trim, blending in with the other décor used on the façade… simplicity at its best.
Think of the timing before you say “but…” When stating your opinion, make sure you are being respectful of others’ opinions. Be mindful of this when you speak.
You can only change yourself. Before you start telling people how they should do things, think of how you can be more flexible.
Perfect Liberty 2022.13
Every day we evolve, every day we face new opportunities, every day we get to make a decision on how we spend our time. What we want to do to accomplish this moment in time…is our decision… make it worthwhile.
for example — I ask myself why I only spend 5, 10 minutes with the crows, when I am on my own time table, they are giving me pleasure, why do I rush away.? Silly thought, random moment.. but there you have it.. caw caw caw….
TAOIST Life is Art (Perfect Liberty precept #1)
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--- there are two energies, Yin and Yang = ONE
---to have balance we must live each moment
of our lives.. with Makoto (sincerity)
The only constant in life is change. I am grounded in the reality of Living.
This is true, in all worlds. RL or virtual. I am me and only me.