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Sometimes when the world just gets too busy – when there is no spaces in the day/night we find ourselves in “overdrive”. It is hard to think clearly when we are bombarded almost 24/7 with chores/tasks/responsibilities. The “Universe” takes over. We get sick, we fall, we have unexpected situations, we have no choice, we have to take a time out.

When was the last time, now think before you answer…. you gave yourself permission to enjoy quality time for YOU.

No, you don’t have to have that cell phone with you 24/7. No, you don’t have to reply or do something “right away” because that is always what was done. When life gets so busy, you feel overwhelmed… it is OK.. to stop, step back.. and take time for YOU. YOU matter, YOU are important, YOU count. Yes the dishes have to be done, but they can wait, they will not disappear, believe me I know.. No one sneaks into your home to do them for you.

Its cold out, its raining… the mosquitos are bad… blah blah blah. yesterday, I toured a new nursery (to me) a huge indoor greenhouse, tons of happy vegetation, lush green leaves, interesting cacti, in the outdoors area, I got to enjoy Japanese maples, Honey locust trees, evergreens in all shapes and sizes. The herb section was a paradise of delightful scented air. When there is a will there is a way.

Today it is a long sleeve sweater day. We had steamy hot … take it all off .. weather not long ago… This is what life is all about. From one day to the next, it is a new beginning.

In PL, #1 Precept is. Life is Art…. # 2 To live is to express One’s Self. # 7 Everything exists in relativity. # 16 All things progress and develop. # 18 EACH MOMENT IS A TURNING POINT

It all begins with your determination.

Things begin to happen the moment you decide “Let’s do it” It all has to do with your attitude.

Please make time for YOU.

Oyashikiri

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Saturday

“The PL 21 Precepts are the basis of the PL Teachings. the 1st precept is

Life Art

Each Precept is written in simple and clear language, but the truth revealed in their words applies universally to all humankind”

The last few weeks have been very busy for me.. my body reacted by sending a cluster headache to keep me company. I’ve had to deal with this type of headache in the past… not fun. The doctor put me through all kinds of test, eventually life returned to normal and the clusters went away.

Patience is a virtue. Yesterday I was driving from point a to point b and thought, … this is soooo nice… I was driving along a known route, the trees were budding, skies were blue.. I looked over at the screen on the dashboard, something seemed to look amiss … and it was sooooooooooooooooo quiet.

You guessed right. I had left the house without my cell. That is why it was so quiet. no music, no pinging, I was alone in the car headed into the woodlands, and no cell. I thought about, but no ,, I didn’t turn around to drive back to retrieve the cell. I decided to trust the Universe.

The quiet was actually comforting… I realized that I have become used to the distractions, and altho’ blocked out at times… that annoyance is still there. The radio plays, music is on, the news happens, but … not when you don’t have your cell with you… it was blissfully quiet.

An adopted name I have, I used it for years… in Second Life, is Qyhat Harbour. I had tried for Quiet, but the game didn’t allow it.. so I fudged the letters and spelled it Qyhat and of course being Canadian I spelled Harbour, with a .u.. so it was allowed. That was back in 2007… to this day many know me as Q…. for some reason, seeing the spelling, the name was simply too difficult for others to grasp… I began to be addressed as Q…. Qyhat is still around although, these days very much retired.

What is in a name?

Anyone have a copy of the song Com Quem Contar?

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Reality

Last night minding my own business, the bitmoji ap popped up and surprised me with a new look. Hmm did I do this in my sleep, the bottom one you’ve seen before that is the one I saw some time ago when I played with the ap. The new me, well.. that was a bit of a shocker. Got me thinking.

I try to be my “authentic” self, not a filtered version of myself. The “me” I’ve become over a life time of this and that moments that have left their mark/scars… on my psyche. None of the above look like me at all, at least I don’t think so… hair short yes, Asian eyes, yes, button nose, yes, In today’s world appearance seems to be important.

Yet… somehow … when I look around what I see, I don’t think is what the world around me is really like. I saw someone going for an interview the other day for an “office” position, and the person was wearing a pair of grubby jeans and a T shirt with graphics on it. Unheard of in my day, and then this morning I read where people book appointments and don’t show up, or call last minute with an excuse .. and want to rebook because “they forgot”..!!!

Sorry I am from a generation where such disrespectful behaviour just wasn’t seen or tolerated. OH.. yes the gray/white hair, that is me. I fortunately am in a position where I can shake my head and return to my quiet life. I even thrill when I find a good detective or police story where the there is actually a believable story line and the actors are in suits and ties (men) and the ladies in actually work clothes, skirts, suit jackets, slacks maybe, sometimes. Even the bad characters wear suits, casual slacks and shirts.

But then, clothes don’t make the man/woman … do they… but life experiences do. There are videos, tapes, podcasts, etc. on everything these days, all words.

Words, words, and more words. You don’t even know if a candidate /person wrote their own introduction/resume or it was generated by AI.. I was shocked to actually hear someone looking for work, just out of school, no work experience, complain that they were expected to work for less $ than a friend who also worked for the same company but had 5 years of service and experience in that field. and, it was added indignantly they would have to commute.

Sorry a bit of a rant… but if you can shed some light on some of the comments, feel free. For myself, I will not be using AI in my sharing with you, nor do I want it in my games and interaction with friends, I am old fashioned, I believe in sincerity/ respect for one another…. as a basic requirement in communicating.

Let’s listen to others until the end

When you interrupt or interject your idea when someone else is talking you will miss out on hearing the person’s true intentions. Clear your mind and listen carefully until the end. PL2014.30

***stop making so called improvements on our programs/when we find something that works. leave it alone !.*** ouch… maybe it was the huge electric storm we had last night… my brain waves got affected.. u think?

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Thursday

Whether coming or going, at home or 1000s miles away, There is no escaping, who you are, or what is happening in your “head”. We cannot always be where we want to be, or be with someone we want to be with. But.. always you are stuck dealing with the ramblings and thoughts that wander in and out of your “active” mind. Someone once said to me ” I wish I was on a holiday somewhere” I asked “why?” The reply I got was “so I don’t have to deal with all this “crap” “..”won’t it be here when you come back” I asked. “Yes! but I will have had time away from it all”

Sound familiar? ever have such thoughts? Ever try that? go away… take a break … when you come back is it easier to deal with?

For myself, if something is bothering me, I deal with it. I face it, deal with it, and then “let it go!” One blogger friend, I read took a solo trip … exploring this wonderful part of State that had amazing landscapes… I very much enjoyed her pictures, her adventure… that was a breath of fresh air … I didn’t have to deal with packing, unpacking, crossing state/provincial borders, dust, heat, strange sleeping arrangements. Guess I’m getting set in my ways… hmmm you think!

Willingly take on tasks that are behind the scenes

Be the one who is able to proactively take on the troublesome tasks that no one likes and for which they are not recognized. By doing so, you will be filled with a genuine feeling of accomplishment.

Life is full of surprises, some are happier experiences than others, but part of the journey is discovering new possibilities when we least expect it… I am winding down from the “need” to get a new car when it was not in my plans, or something I wanted to do.. I took my 2019 for her last drive to our haunts in the country, I loved that car,, she was my companion ..my comfortable place to be when the road got bumpy, I hope she will be happy where-ever she lands.

Everything in life happens for a reason, no matter the season… your life is what it is…. Sh#t happens, when we have been around long enough, we know… the only way out, is to focus on the road ahead and keep moving. It is all about the journey.

PL Precept # 17 Grasp what is most Essential

PL Precept #18 Each moment is a turning point.

Oyashikiri

Love a four letter word that defies any one definition

**no matter where you are, if you have a problem that won’t go away, distancing yourself physically, will not erase that “problem” from your gray cells. You will carry it with you…it will shadow you where-ever you are.

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What is it about today’s world. How come we are always taking selfies?

Why would one need a selfie when getting out of the tub? In fact what is the fascination with taking pictures of what we are doing, should we not be out living our lives.. interacting with other people, catching up with friends, making new friends?

I got a message the other day about storage, I realized that I had zillions of pictures… like really.. how many times do I need to see a picture of a tree, and is that the same squirrel I captured with my camera the other day… was I really going to pay to store more pictures that I may or may not ever look at again.???

Really world, time to focus on living what is left of my life. I realize that out of thousands of pictures .. only a few are really important to me.. the rest are an accumulation of moments, that I lived.. and today, this actual moment is the moment I have to deal with NOW. I am going to make a serious attempt to clear out the non essential “stuff”…

How about you? How are you doing today? Have you done something new? Are you planning something or working on something that is exciting for you? Quincy (elder cat) is wanting me to get on with this so I can finish feeding he and Quinn … She has settled in and is now letting us all know.. she is here to stay… by far, she has the loudest purr I’ve ever heard.

Yesterday I put my chair out in the middle of a clump of snow cuz that is where the sun was shining the strongest… and just sat with my eyes closed enjoying the rays… I put on my sound identifier (birds) in ten minutes it had recorded over a dozen birds who serenaded my stolen moments. It was so peaceful, I didn’t want the radio on in the car when I started my drive home.

Please slow down .. make time for YOU … get out and enjoy the world as it unfolds a new season for us to experience ..

If you are going to do it, put your whole heart into it. Your degree of seriousness will affect the outcome. Your daily accumulation of effort towards your goals shows just how serious you are.

Oyashikiri

fyi. some of the conservation areas are now barred (closed) overnight. Unfortunately the grounds are being used late evenings by people with no respect for property and the wildlife.

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Sunday

Where there is a will, there is a way!

Have you ever realized that you knew someone for years, and yet, in reality you didn’t know them at all.. Even tho’ that person lived in the same house, ate meals with you, shared quality moments with you (which at the time, you had no idea that the moment would have a lasting impression)… The age difference and the dynamics in the “family” setting were such that this (in your world at the time) was just someone you had to interact with … Many years later, and only after decades of living your own life did the realization of just what part that person played in the many complex pieces of your psyche … did you have an A-HA! moment. Sad really, he of course is long gone, but the replay of the moments you shared with him, are still very fresh in your mind,

It is like standing on the edge of a cliff, after trudging through a field of snow and finding that just below you there is the Atlantic ocean pounding into the rocky shoreline below.. you had not seen in from the road, but you had heard it. Leaving the car, you trudged through knee high snow and over landscape uneven and sculpted with unknown shapes towards the sound… It was fun, you were young, the adventure was a natural high. The sound of the ocean’s relentless pounding a call you couldn’t resist.

But the sudden abrupt end of the hike stops you short,, the drop is too far down, however the view, the moment is breathtaking. One you know you will never forget.

These two past experiences have stayed with me, both etched into my memory cells. Why, I have no idea, but I realized recently that the sum total of Me are the many moments I’ve accumulated in my life time. We just don’t know or realize how each moment we live will affect us, or come back to mirror for us, something we are living NOW.

My father did his best to impress on me the importance of being in the present and paying attention to NOW. I didn’t appreciate it at the time, but I certainly have grown to realize just how valuable that lesson was. I was asked the other day,” if something happens to you, and a decision has to be made about the care/treatment you would want, what do you want?” there was no hesitation on my part, keep me from pain and just let me go. I have been blessed with having lived a 10001 lifetimes and more … I’ve known, and lived love, heartbreak, loss, and now I know contentment.

The world has become a very negative and unfamiliar place, threats, counter threats, fighting, only in the quiet of the woodlands do I find an ambiance of peace/serenity

It is my prayer/hope for this new year that there will be more peace to be found for everyone.

Discover each person’s unique qualities

When we approach people with respect, we can understand them better and see their special qualities.

Oyashikiri

https://youtu.be/56ChPB0_aYM?si=MOFAOIg5C-neef9h

you cannot take back moments lived

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locked inside, looking out (this read is not for everyone)

Again this could be upsetting.. if you are sensitive to the plight of others.. read no further.

Depression is something that comes out of nowhere, and often it can go undiagnosed. It isn’t till something unpleasant” happens that we are forced to face something we have not wanted to address.

Did you know.. that at one time if a woman was considered to not be taking care of her husband properly he could have her shipped out to a psych ward for an “attitude adjustment”

What the picture above is showing is a woman wearing a face mask that was part of the conditioning. It was believed that if a woman saw herself smiling it would become natural… this was often accompanied by shock treatment. I’ll let that sink it.. archaic ? I’m sure some of us could really get into this subject alone.

I don’t think a day goes by where I don’t read or hear about some very negative incidents that happen in the world due to “”mental health” issues. It is all around us, and it begins at an early age. As a health care professional, we work with many many different forms of “health issues” .. the unease of the mind & body are constantly surfacing around us. How do we cope, how do we adjust to the unhappiness, dis-ease- and negativity that plague society today.

Life is what we make it.. right? Not always, when someone is depressed, anxious, and totally bummed out… they are not thinking with a clear health mind.. they are dealing with an illness, something beyond their control. They are not in this state by choice, they are dealing the cards dealt them. Whether young, or old, when they are placed in or on a ward that requires safety steps be put in place. Double sets of doors. Visitors can come in, and only allowed visitors at times, not just anyone.. Visitors can leave, but they are left behind the locked doors.

The pressures of life are never easy to juggle if you are bombarded continuously with one problem after another. What can we do, how can we help others to cope.. Before we can really benefit someone else. WE really have to begin with ourselves. No one, not one person , has ever been without a negative thought, a compelling lure of self-doubt.. or unease about something or someone. Imagine if those moments had intensified, gotten out of control, IF we had not had someone to speak with, be with, or connect with.

A hospital is a hospital, no matter how nice you dress it up, paint the walls, or clean the floors. It is a cold clinical environment. If you have occasion to visit someone in hospital.. the best gift you can bring, is a genuine love and sincere wish for their recovery. This is a precious gift, unique to you and the person receiving it. Wrap it with a warm loving hug and a big heartfelt smile.

Love and laughter will fill a bleak room with sunshine, and thought you may think it is not noticed.. believe me, the receiver will feel it, and it will stay with them, long after you’ve left.

God,Nature,TAo, Divine HIgher Power, whatever you call the life-giving force within, is without measure, and without definition. Love, pure unconditional love is force like no other. a smile that begins from within and radiates out to the world……………………is awesome. Share a smile today. Please... today I missed my chance, I was in an elevator full of people, and i didn’t smile. it is not easy, I will try harder tomorrow.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

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Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind

When you are listening to someone, give them your fullest attention. Turning your body towards them, listen for the feeling behind their words so that you can truly understand what they are trying to tell you.

Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind. Today’s Perfect Liberty teaching. I start each day reading the daily teaching and try to carry it as best as I can throughout my day. Doing this every day, you find that soon it becomes the natural way to respond and you develop a greater understanding and connection to the person(s) you interact with. How many times have you found yourself in a conversation that is one sided? Someone will ask how you are, and before you can really answer they have launched into their own recounting of what has happened to them. At such times I realize that the person’s need to share information and have someone listen is what is important in that moment. I listen. Not always, but more often then not, in listening, I hear not only the words but the feelings that accompany those words. For that space in time, there is a connection between the person talking, and myself. It might have been a sad story, an anxiety expressed, a happy moment retold, whatever it was, for me it was a moment shared. I feel glad and happy to have been able to share that moment in time with my family member/friend/acquaintance. My happiness and comfort in sharing, transfers to the person I’m interacting with, when we can connect with another individual in a personal way, a sharing way, that is a real “hug”

Too often in life we say love, hugs and kisses, or make affectionate sounds, but do we really feel the “comfort” and “joy” (closeness)

Listen With Your Heart and Your Mind.