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brain drain?

Bouts of forgetfulness? You find yourself wanting to test your cognitive skills. Do you identify with articles that talk about memory issues. Do you have trouble staying focused. How do you do with retaining or learning new information/technology? Something that we are all experiencing at some level if we are now “adults”…

Every magazine has some kind of article in it that wants to educate us, on healthy habits, diet changes so that we are getting more legumes, whole grains, eat fish for more omega etc. the list goes on and on. there are articles and “people” who specialize in studying and passing on information about how to age gracefully.

A doctor once told me when I asked him the question..”am I over weight, should I be on a diet” his reply was to ask me, 1. how do you feel? do you feel good? Are you experiencing any symptoms that we need to look into? I had to think, but no I had no aches, pains, or discomfort, I was eating well, I wasn’t having headaches, my arthritis was not acting up, my diabetic numbers were good, maybe I could fall asleep faster, but in the grand scheme of things, I was in good working order. So health wise, I was fine, yes I was overweight (in my opinion) I wanted to be back at the weight I had been in my 20’s.

In his opinion, I was doing really well, my blood pressure and all the other factors he concerns himself with were good. So I was 20 pounds maybe even 25 pounds heavier .. so what, I was also older and less active than I had been in my younger years. He suggested at the time that I get out more, walk, get fresh air, spend less time worrying about my weight be thankful for my good health, and appreciate that I was healthy and able to get out and do things.. in other words.. practice a positive attitude.

I have taken to making sure I get out every day, I may miss a day here or there, but basically I go out every day and walk, or sit/commune with the wildlife in various locations… It is MY time… I allow myself the pleasure of taking in “nature”.. “seasons” “weather”… I interact with the wildlife and other people I meet along the way. I spend time in the present. Over time, being present/focused and being in the moment has become natural for me. It didn’t happen overnight, its been years in the “doing”.

I don’t worry/obsess about my estrogen levels, I don’t go looking for middle age problems, i simply enjoy whatever the day brings my way, and move on … Sometimes it works like a charm, other times I may come across a hiccup or two, but…. I know… this is now.. and it will pass. If I am tenacious about anything, it is about learning to”let go” to live my life the best way I can.. and move on. So brain drain becomes just a cute catch phrase to grab attention… did it work?

Get things started with grit. If you work on things in daily life with the attitude of “let’s do it!” you will feel a power to accomplish thigs. People around you will rely on you.
Perfect Liberty 2023.29

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Wednesday 5th.

it was a beautiful sunny morning, The male was wanting attention, the females were more interested in climbing to a sunny spot and chilling. Timing wasn’t on his side yesterday.

If you work on things with the attitude of asking a favour, people around you will advise you what they have noticed. there’s something in fact you are not aware of that you do
Perfect Liberty 2023.5

Special prayers today for friends, family and everyone else who needs that extra boost today. Whatever it is, oral surgery, a bad cold, simple “anxiety overload”.. this is just another moment in time. prayer is a silent moment — a reaching out — a calm in the middle of a muddle… PL Precept # 1 Life is Art.

PL Precept # 18 Each moment is a turning Point.

It is not an easy time for everyone. You can make a difference. You really truly can. OYASHIKIRI

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wonders we miss

Good Morning, since it is freezing rain and cold outside, I took to the virtual world to grab a few photos the other day. I posted the lying down resting by an open fire one on Instagram the other day. Just looking at the avatar chilling… squeezed a big sigh out of me… The one on the left is the avatar taking timealong her journey of discovery to dance. The opportunity was there so she took it.

Discover something new today. Have a willingness and an interest, and start your day with excitement.
^{Perfect Liberty 2023.22}

Dancing is an activity that we do that it is all about the journey .. it is an opportunity to stretch our bodies, lift our arms to the sky, give space to areas in our bodies that have been dormant. It is healthy for us to be active. We get up and move, not to get somewhere but to enjoy the feeling of movement and reconnect with our bodies.

Chilling, taking time to be quiet, allow contemplation (in this example) gaze at the sky, listen to the fire crackling, watch clouds drift by, is that water in the distance, can you hear the sound of a waterfall, are the birds singing, a bee buzzing, allow the mind to drift, wander, if thoughts come, acknowledge them and then let them go… Chilling is making time for YOU.

Explore new thoughts, places, be open to the wonders around you. Do everything willingly and joyfully…

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wandering

Have you ever found yourself in conversation with a squirrel. How they will look right back at you in pure defiance. There are a couple of the little red ones that are just a little bigger than a minute.. they are loud, noisy, have a lot to say … and are determined that if you want them to go away, they are going to show you, they are going to stay. I recognize that behaviour…. Have been known to display “some” of that annoying stubbornness myself.

Compromise makes things more complicated. if you go against your intuition and compromise because circumstances or conditions, things tend to get more complicated than they need to be. Always focus on the priorities and act accordingly.
Perfect Liberty 2012,22

Express straight away once you’ve found it…” great!”.. Proactively express about others’ goodness. It feels great to be told so, even about things you already know.
Perfect Liberty 2023.24 (translated in Japan from Japaneses)

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a new day

Seeing this picture reminded me of my trek around the perimeter of the piece of land that stuck out from the mainland. I had been climbing over stumps, fallen logs, dense vegetation when I felt the eyes watching me. I looked over and there was a very intent bird watching my progress. I was so close I was surprised she didn’t take off.. but then… she wouldn’t would she.. she was protecting her nest. I made my apologies and backed away… not before I whipped my Nikon out to grab a picture. Can you see if she said “cheese”…

Are you overdoing things? Not only do you harm yourself when you overdo things, but you may be imposing on others as well.

Perfect Liberty 2022.29

Reconnecting ( or staying connected) with nature is vital to good health. It has been shown to have an enduring effect on emotions and mood. I find it very helpful .. I call it part of my brain health support program. Try it, you might like it. =^_^=

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I did something different…

Aggghhh I did something today that I’ve never done before.. I intentionally climbed over a barrier that was put there to prevent people from going on the boardwalk. I knew the risk.. I was told, the sign was there to protect the people responsible for the conservation area. Anyone who goes beyond the barriers is doing so at their own peril….. the weather has been cold but so far there is no snow and ice on the boardwalk, I had my walking stick… big waterproof boots … and I knew I would be extremely careful.

Can one capture “cold” I tried…the ice is forming on the water, it is still open in some areas… I have walked the trail in the winter before, I’m not sure why they have shut it down this winter. I will enquire. For sure.. I had the place to myself.. only met someone when I was on the trail that leads back to the parking area.

I wanted to be alone. I wanted to experience the quiet and the complete solitude of being in the open space of the bog that would be devoid of other humans. I wanted to hear my own thoughts, to listen to the distant sounds of the world happening around me, but not near me. My wish was granted.

Are you overdoing things? Not only do you harm yourself when you overdo things, but you may be imposing on others as well.
Perfect Liberty 2022.29

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Sunday moment

It is not fun to be stuck in one place. Instead of being captured by what’s in front of you, strive to broaden your horizons.
Perfect Liberty 2022.28

I picked up a magazine the other day to put in the bag i was putting together for the charity shop, I saw that I had a book mark on a page. ID your strengths… I must have been going to revisit the page. I had had good intentions.. date of the little magazine was 2021, January.

My eyes lingered on the one block on the page of strength, the issues was January so it is when everyone is looking at challenges we faced in the previous year and what lessons had we learned etc. It is an interesting list. I’ll share it with you.

Appreciation of beauty and excellence ……………. Kindness …………………. Leadership …………

Bravery ……… Love……….. creativity ……………… love of learning …….. curiosity ……… perseverance ………..

fairness ……. Perspetive …………. forgiveness …….. prudence ……….. gratitude ……… self regulation ……..

honesty …….. self regulation ……… hope ………. social intelligence ……… humility ……….. spirituality ………..

humor……. judgement …….. teamwork …….. zest ………..

To cope with current problems, it helps to reflect on past successes .. and we are asked to look at what inner resources helped us to do this. Apparently psychologists call our “superpowers” signature strengths. is that a cape billowing behind you? Mine is tattered and torn in places, colours are faded,, but I won’t be trading it in soon…. I earned every wrinkle and stain… you?

Have a great day everyone, service is at 10 a.m.

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Complaining mind

When instead of still waters, the energy around you seems to be constantly stirring and charged with negative emotion. you can’t pin point where the “distress” is coming from… but.. you know its there.

I recall at the office opening an envelope one day, in it, one of the ladies from the accounting department had put in a sheet of paper, on it was a photocopy of a list of statements that were about aging. Some of you old enough to recall photocopies (these were the days when we sent memos and inter office communications via. internal mail systems that usually comprised of a “mail Person” … who went from floor to floor, office to office delivering the mail (internal/external) that had been received in the hospital’s mail room, sorted and then delivered

Anyway I digress. the sheet of paper was meant to be funny, and usually we all had a mini break of laughter as we read about – how at one time we knew where we were going, and now, we left the room and forgot why? Or couldn’t find the glasses we thought were missing, only to be told we had them on, etc. there was one, and someone out there can remind me if you recall the exact words, but was to the effect that our new friends now all had names like BenGay, Absorbine Jr. etc. and went on to name other over the counter creams/lotions, for people to deal with arthritic pain, sprains, muscles etc. I used to think, is that all people can talk about when they get older. their aches/pains/discomforts.. sore this, sore that, can’t do this anymore, can’t remember, always forgetting, being slower than before, blah blah blah.

OK I’m older now. and of the generation that no longer wants to leave the house at 9 or 10 o’clock because that is when things start to happen. (yes at night). Nor am I interested in attending the most amazing live concert at the stadium or some other event that involves hundreds and hundreds of people standing in line to get in and then standing or sitting packed together to listen or watch some event. (mind you with Covid that came to a standstill for awhile)

All this, if you think about it, is a way of complaining… it is seeing the negative and trying to accommodate it. Think about it. How often in the day, given a chance to say or express yourself, your response is about a negative. It’s soooo cold, a question like “how are you” .. elicits, “its been so hot, the humidity is killing me” ” I stood in the drizzle yesterday watching the dog run…or having a conversation..”

I realized that I was moaning and groaning yesterday, complaining about my aches, pains, and inability to do things like I used to… wow… voices from the past came crashing down on me. I was becoming a complainer, I need to focus more on the feel goods, the positives… then a little voice askes in wonder, how did this happen….???? and I don’t know that the answer jumps out at me. Today’s calendar says..

Express yourself clearly so others can understand you. When you can’t communicate clearly, it can lead to problems. Always express yourself carefully to avoid any misunderstandings.
Perfect Liberty 2022.9

In PL we learn to recognize when we are complaining, and we are tasked with the exercise of working on changing that habit. it is an ongoing exercise for me, picture a wee hamster in her cage with a treadmill.

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a door J’adore

I stand here ready – I am not pretty- nor am I handsome – I am a door

I function – I open and I close – I may not be considered attractive – but I do my job – I am a door

I am different, I am unique – there was purpose in my making – I am a door

– now dear reader – you can say

I just met a door so interesting, so individualistic in character, it only made sense, to create a verse

to celebrate how ordinary can be extraordinary when it becomes a door.

photo – Dave Renz – text Q

Thursday Doors is a weekly feature – for more doors, please visit Dan’s No Facilities site https://nofacilities.com/2022/07/28/clay-hill-historic-district-1/

Today’s PL Calendar –

It is not fun to be stuck in one place. Instead of being captured by what’s in front of you, strive to broaden your horizons.
Perfect Liberty 2022.28

Reminder, if you are not sure of the services /ceremonies at the church please check your calendars.

** founders Day (Kyososai) August 1st. !st of the month –day of Peace usually 10 a.m.

Sunday services are at 10 a.m.

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Day of Peace

Simplify your routine – be gentle to yourself. Listen to the the sights and sounds around you. Eat more mindfully, tone, stretch breathe, and relax!

Brighten up your day with happy thoughts, shared moments. Its been a long time since I’ve been inspired to just sit down at my computer and put together a visual thought. A thought /verse or moment that pops up in my head and simply needs to be visualized.* If you are a writer/artist, you know about those moments when “inspiration hits”… we say.. “Oh, great idea” and then we move on to doing something else or finishing what we were doing when the “idea” came to us. –hours later we have forgotten, that “moment” has disappeared, we vaguely recall some of it.. but the “bright light” has dimmed.

In trying to be more observant of my reactions, I am doing my best to notice my feelings – positive, negative and neutral… I know when I am mindful … I get a sense of freedom. The mind is always chasing who, what, why of our experiences. Today during service, I will do a mindful meditation .. to reconnect with the spaces between the many thoughts that bounce around in my head. I will let a thought come, notice it, and let it go.

Instead of immediately chasing after a pleasant idea, or instantly running away from something unpleasant, I’ll step back .. notice what is happening.. and simply observe. LOL sounds easy.. believe me it takes practice.. but so well worth it. Join me?