relationships | dymoonblog

A fine WordPress.com site

Posts tagged ‘relationships’

once upon a time

There was a time when it took hours to dress,and never would a woman be seen in public without being prroperly attired.

This was an outfit found on a blog, 1910 daywear, high fitted waistline and baptiste blouse. So.. even in the early 1900’s women wore clothes that befitted what was considered proper dress of that period.

remember the dresses our parents wore, or that we saw in earlier movies.

This is a Chanel Dress c.1937

I had a conversation the other day with a dear and treasured friend, that sparked a thought, and it carried through, when a Facebook friend commented on a post I had posted about how people kept cool back in the days before air conditioning.

She replied with a comment about how today, the younger people seem to always be on a cellphone. Actually it is not only the young, many ages have taken to walking around tied to their electronic paraphernalia.

The later in the day I was speaking with someone on Skype and we talked of how “it used to be” when peope really enjoyed “community”

The theme throughout most of the day yesterday seemed to flow always with a touch of melancholy of “what was” In the evening I met someone whose comment was ” How nice to actually see you, we seem to always be talking in text” How true, and yes it was nice to see her … actually see her, see her sense of style, her way of presenting her physical self. Then my day today started with a personal message from someone dear to my heart, and once again I was struck by how one person can be perceived so differently, so much so… that if another friend met up with the other, there would be no way of knowing, that it was the same person they were speaking about.

Ok how do I come up with that.. look at the ladies about, and their clothing.. that is what we see, the fashion statement, or the put together look…. we are not really seeing the person that is wearing the outfit. Today’s world is more open when it comes to fashion..never-the-less…. the person we see decked out in “la mode” of the day.. is not the person who comes home at night, and does what she does best… enjoy/live her private moments…

Who we really are, and what is really going on inside our private world, is usually very different from the personna that is seen by friends, family and aquaintences.

Change is the only constant in life, and like the seasons, we are always changing.

Each new day brings a different experience. With each experience, we learn and grow.

Sometimes we thing we are starting over, but we aren’t, we are only recognzing the signs we missed the first time around.

When you look in the mirror, do you see yourSELF or do you see the face of a person you are not wanting to see.?

I am blessed to be living with a man who loves me… but we both know that there are days he so so much has to work at liking me.

Once upon a time, we lived in a world that did its best to hide much of what it didn’t want to see.. Now we are living during a time when perhaps even now, we hide behind the electronic world.. if you are talking on the phone, doing your e-mails, you don’t have to deal with what is in front of you or in your immediate field of vision.

BE AWARE that today, willl someday be, once upon a time.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

*metmuseum.org-French 1880-1914

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

collaboration= working together

Friendship – sometimes it is easier with a friend

and it is a good friend that will let you be silly

and share in your moment, to create a smile.

Share a smile today…

they are contagious!!

Namaste – Oyashikiri

**photo, Howard Berman (Getty Images)

*** lovedaylemon on flickr

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

always

always and forever she whispered

always and forever he replied

as he leaned over to lay a tender kiss on her brow

the steady hum of the machine that had filled the room

slowly faded away, till only silence remained

he looked down at the hand clasped in his

a tear fell slowly down his cheek

always and forever

they had vowed

and though she no longer

would be in the here and now

he knew that in his heart

their love would live on

always and forever

for love like theirs was blessing from above

from their very first day

they had known

there would be no other

their sacred bond of love transcended all

knowledge known to man, it was a prayer answered

from above, and would live on

always and forever

Oyashikiri

photo by Q

text, Always by Q

photo, Iceland,Pinterest

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

dishonesty

Can we learn from dishonesty?

When someone is dishonest, and it involves you, are you affected by their dishonesty?

It happens, we forget to listen carefully to what is being said, we allow feelings to get in the way. Or the perceived friendship that we think we are having is really not what we think it is at all. Really I believe that there is a part of us that recognizes the lie we are living, but for the most part, it seems to take a long time to really register.

Is the lie ours for not listening to our inner voice, or to the person who deceived us with their untruths. A conundrum for sure. It takes two people for a relationship to work, and when one is left to try to manage on one’s own, then it is no longer a relationship. I’m not talking of a social friendship, where one supports a friend, and is there for them through thick and thin. I’m talking about a special relationship where two people have agreed to share a common interest/goal or objective. the parameters are spelled out and they progress into the adventure. When one person changes the rules and brings lies into the equation, it isn’t long before the gulf begins to widen.

. Some pathways are well-defined, and we know if we step off we are in for a big fall. We take our time and enjoy the view, but the world around us is not really part of the path, rather our path is traveling through the world around us..

The railings keep us from seeing what is down below, we see only what is within sight of where we are being directed.

Same applies in relationships, no matter how we try, when we are walking through life on a constructed and laid out surface, we don’t go beyond the limits placed on us.

“Tena sentimiento de aprender de todas las personas. Los conocimientos y las experiencias de uno mismo son limitados. Eschuche con docilidad las opiniones ajenas. (Spanish) (English) You can Learn from Anyone. There is a limitation to our own knowledge and experiences. Listen carefully and sincerely to other’s opinions.” PL lesson for the day.

Dishonesty, deceiving, lying, cheating, these are all activities that will come back to haunt you. When we lie or create false truths, we are deviating from nature, from what really is. We not only deceive the other person, we deceive ourselves. Happiness can not last when it is based on lies. In life, we take more winding paths than we do straight roads. We are also responsible for the choices we make.

We may stand physically alone, but we are never alone.Nature, surrounds us and permeates are very being, with all that is real, the Universe is real, God is real. You and I with God, we are ONE.

To lie is a waste of time and energy, to lie and accept living a lie, is not being in Harmony with Nature. My choice, will always be to Love.and live in harmony with life/UNIVERSE

Namaste – Oyashikiri

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

Push to Stop

If you drive you know all about the emergency brake, and how and when to use it. But what about own behaviour, do we have the owner’s manual handy for our “self-control” Do we know where it and how to employ it when a situation or circumstances get out of hand,

We have all had moments when we have been confronted with an angry person, we’ve seen the facial signals, the change in body stance, perhaps you’ve had such instances yourself where you’ve felt the anger build, and you simply want to vent.Shove off…………… Stay off my patch …………….. leave me alone ………………..you are ticking me off ………………. I said NO ! For sure we know this is not the face of kindness, or an invitation to come closer for a hug. This “Being” is clearing expressing his/her mood at the time of the picture.

Nor is this a sign of wanting company, or your interference. Very clear signs, why do we ignore them, think we know best, or want to have our needs met when the other person is unresponsive. Someone once said to me, when her spouse had just such a face… “I don’t understand, I’m happy and want him to be happy” We are not always on the same page at the same time. And another person’s mood may have absolutely nothing to do with us. Respecting someone else’s space is so very important, in all relationships/ interactions. family, friends or otherwise.

Donald has the right idea here, this is the “talk to the hand” signal… It means, stop, I no longer want to listen, “talk to the hand” A friend once explained this to me, I’d never seen it before. She was a manager of an office, and had to listen to a lot of flack at times, when she had enough, she would raise her hand, like Donald is doing, and we would know, she’d reached her limit.. it said give me a break, come back another time.. I’ve used this over the years, it saves a lot of grief. gives all parties a chance to just chill, reflect and calm down.

Find your emergency brake and when you need to use it… Please do so… activate it…. spare others around you that negative moment that is yours to alone to own.

Love is unconditional, we are loved no matter what our mood, or actions are. It is just easier for everyone when we learn to take ownership of our actions, and discover an appreciation for a quieter state of mind.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

*Pinterest

** 4TNZ

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

Dank u, goedendag, good day!

Recall the expression, “different strokes for different folks” isn’t this adorable, It’s a little build in Holland, The Veenpark,Banger-Compascuum*

We are all unique, in our own personal way, that is what is so wonderful about meeting and getting to know another person. I grew up in an age when we were encouraged to have pen pals. With the electronic age, snail mail seems to have gone the way of the 10 cent phone call.

Yet, the internet now provides us with opportunities that would have been unheard of in days gone by. The meetings can be more frequent, and more direct if not face to face, they are still person to person. Respect becomes key, we may appear to be different, we may dress, walk, talk in a different manner, but we are still connected, We all feel, we all have needs and wants, even though our experiences/challenges differ, we came to “be” in the same way.

Intriguing build isn’t it. So are the people around us. Each person in your life, is a whole new landscape waiting to be discovered. Accept and respect differences, strive for harmonious relationships.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

*Flickr,mad_madchen

** Zaanse Schans, Holland (full of traditional crafts and architecture) found on goamsterdam.about.com

*** Reflections in Alesund,Norway by waynekorea on Flickr

**** Predjame castle Norway http://www.photopix.co.nz

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

Happy Wednesday -Carsamba

Good morning everyone!

How we respond to others, how we greet our friends and acquaintances along the way, speak volumes about how we respect and feel towards fellow travelers in this world of ours. Make it a point to be the first to say hello, smile, or greet someone you meet. A smile goes a long way in making the difference in someone else’s day. Good relationships begin with the first hello. Sincerity (Makoto) plays a huge factor in the development of a friendship. Be a friend, be someone who cares.

I have written to the person who shared this photo on Pinterest, I would love to know where this is. If anyone out there recognizes the location, please.. drop me a line. It is alledged that it is the longest natural arch known.

*allaha1smarlad1k (goodbye) Till next time.. be kind, be aware, smile and take care. Oyashikiri

* my attempt at Turkish without a proper keyboard =^_^=

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

Buongiorno good morning everyone!

Mineral Flowers @ Danakii Desert in Ethiopia

This is a picture of acid lakes in the Dallol volcano * beautiful sight isn’t it. Zillions of tiny mineral deposits come together to form magnificent little rosettes that in turn, weave and join together to form natural basins for the acid waters to form. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, how often have we heard that!

It is interesting how different cultures, we go about finding a mate, or partner. In traveling to the East, I had occasion to speak with a number of different women who were in(what appeared) very happy relationships, and who were all from arranged marriages. I say arranged, not the way necessarily that the west has portrayed them but arranged never-the-less. Having spent the majority of my working life working as a Stress Management Specialist in Health Care, where over 65% of the issues I dealt with stemmed from unhappy relationships, and in many ways very unhealthy “coupling”. I was impressed with the natural harmony I saw and felt when talking to these woman. They found men with common interests and goals, learned what they could about whether or not their goals were similar and found out if their paths were on the same playing field. Then made a decision on whether or not to go forward in a relationship. This also applied to the men, looking for a wife. Two criteria, practical and long term. I’ve simplified this of course , more at another time.

In the culture I’ve lived in here in North America, and the social interactions that I’ve even participated in, is very different. We seem to be attracted first to the “looks” (outer wrappings ) of the object we “desire”. We can date someone for months and yes even years, and know deep down they are not satisfying our inner needs, yet …we hold on….. why…. out of fear of being alone. Not having someone to be part of a couple with, so when we go out with friends, or go places we are doing it with someone else. EVEN WHEN, the activities we are attending or doing (and this applies to both men and women) are not what we really want to be doing. Ah HAH!!!! ring any bells. If you are going to do something, do it because you want to, do it with sincerity in your heart. If you choose to do something, then do it with joy and enthusiasm, you are the only person who is in control of your choices.

I like to live quietly in harmony with Nature. To know what you find compatible with your way of life, you first have to know your SELF, and what you want!. By doing this, you will find a greater sense of inner beauty and calm. God/Nature/Universe is with us always! Oyashikiri

* Acid Lakes -Ethiopia -photographer Pascal Boegli> Pboog flickr

** Natural terrace pools Pamukkale,Turkey (turbotwister.ru)

Category:

Uncategorized

Tagged with:

Dreams -astral journeys

Have you ever felt the draw to return to your dream. You wake up and feel that where you’ve been, and what you’ve seen was so so very much a part of who you are. Have you heard of “astral projection”? At one time, there was a lot of talk, discussion and study on the ability of the spiritual form to travel across space and explore other dimensions, and even visit family and friends.

I don’t hear a lot about that these days, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Maybe it is because I feel that my night time travels are an extension of my days or “awake” time. I think it helped that my Mother always shared her dream experiences with me, so it wasn’t out of the ordinary. Just matter of fact. Like the TAO/God being a constant factor, it wasn’t a relationship I needed to find, it was part of my daily life, life breathing. Respect for nature and all mankind was natural because it was an extension of who I was. Life is my studio, and I am the artist.

Dreams are part of my inventory, and astral journeys are part of my research. Life is good, life is full, and most of all, life is love.

When you live with love in your heart, you enjoy the full spectrum of life. Jai Guru Dev (TM) Oyashikiri (PL) Amen =^_^=

photography Q -SL