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Being objective

talking to strangers

Do you talk to people you don’t know. Are you someone who strikes up a conversation with someone you don’t know who happens to be where you are, when you are? I hadn’t heard the term before, but I saw recently in an old Oprah magazine, an article about an author Malcolm Gladwell, who writes books about “cultural conversations”.. he writes about how close encounters between strangers can teach us ,how we can get better at reading each other’s signals. (Tipping Point)

Thinking back over my many years of my existence, I can’t count the number of people I’ve met, either in the workforce, out for the evening, waiting in line when running errands… everywhere, there is always, someone, somewhere who is close enough for me to greet or acknowledge. Do I always? .. no.. but on average compared to my friends and close associates, I would be considered “outgoing” and more likely to start up a conversation, or even, just say Hi, nod, say good day… I’ve met some of the most interesting people that way, and actually have found that I like most people I meet.

Being Chinese in the North America of many years ago, meant that you were “the oddity” your cultural background was different, and of course you “looked” different… I was taught that everyone has feelings, and meeting someone was an opportunity to “grow” as a person, to “learn” … my perspective on human behaviours was honed from a very early age to listen carefully, to watch and be aware of life as it came my way. PL Precept # 7 Everything exists in relativity.

It is in the meeting of people with different ideas, and backgrounds, that I found so many “treasures” (moments of wonder. PL Precept # 6 Efface your self-conceptions.

We are all so unique, I really enjoy brief encounters that elicit a smile, a wave, a brief exchange. =^_^=

When you get stuck, take a step back. When you are able to see things objectively, your viewpoint will change and you will receive new wisdom.

Perfect Liberty 2022.23

PL Precept # 18 Each moment is a turning point – we often make judgements based on our own unconscious biases. I try to be aware of my reactions and to be more receptive to “learning” and being more “open” to “differences” – an exercise that is ongoing… not that I’m a slow learner, .. there is just so much to see and discover.

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feelings

Be in tune with the feelings of others. Let’s start by trying to understand other peoples feelings.

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A simple message with a lot of homework. We have to work at nurturing, savoring and decoding our relationships. Friendships are often the bonds that complete us. It is not always easy to define friendships, in this new world of insta-intimacy, it is good to remember that friendships are a matter of the heart, not heart emojis. Caring, awareness, focus, and feelings.. are important ingredients of maintaining and appreciating a true friend.

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virtual photo by Q

Friends

The charm of doorways found in Quebec City.

I don’t get to travel around as much as I used to … or would like to… I’m so grateful to have friends who know of my love of doors and send me smiles when they are away. Blessings come in all shapes and sizes, I am blessed with friends who are thoughtful and caring.

Today on Thanksgiving (PL day of Appreciation) I give thanks as I do every month on the 21st. for my valued friends. It is impossible to tell them everyday, but I pray every day and keep them in my heart always. Friendships are gifts that are treasures that enhance our lives.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. Let’s live with gratitude towards everyone and everything all day today.

Perfect Liberty 2022.21

PL Service of Appreciation (Thanksgiving) is this evening at 7 pm

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Today is also – Thursday Doors, visit the No Facilities site for more doors –https://nofacilities.com/2022/07/21/more-from-old-wethersfield/

Bom dia

Help the people around you smile more. Always strive to make those around you smile. that will bring you joy too.

Perfect Liberty 2022.18

Be 100% committed to the cause… S M I L E

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another Sunday, another week

Come on … let’s go.. last one to arrive, catches dinner. – ever notice, we are always on the move, there is someplace to be, something to do, someone waiting…

Start today with a fresh outlook. even though people and situations may look the same, they are constantly changing, Start each day with a fresh mind.

Perfect Liberty 2022.17

Let’s look at and listen to others with an open mind. your judgment becomes clouded when you look at a situation or person with preconceived notions. Observe them for what they actually are.

Perfect Liberty 2012.27
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Unlock your superstar

Good morning.. can anyone else see the heart that has been ripped open – bare – open to the world, Time will heal the wound – The sun will warm and the rain will wash away the remnants of what was.. What was a war cry and the horror of being ripped apart, now is the steady slow journey of recovery. Never to be what was, but to accept and move on, to experience what is to be.

Have a joyful day by being a little more creative. You will enjoy your day more by adding a little creativity to your daily activities.

Perfect Liberty 2022.16

Enjoy the week-end everyone. Here we are experiencing a lot of sunshine and very hot, humid weather, typical for this part of Canada. (LOL to me hot is anything over 65 ) but rest easy, it is going into the 80s for you summer lovers. A friend in Arizona texted the other morning it was 9:30 something (a.m.) her time and it was already in the 90’s.. I just wilt thinking about it.

my bitmoji has more grit than I do – enjoy everyone! have fun.

Friday 15th. Kindness.

Face the speaker , make eye contact and listen carefully. Listening to people is also a form of expression, listen with Makoto (sincerity)

Perfect Liberty 2022.15
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Tuesday – 12th.

Good morning everyone, these were the colourful blooms outside the window of the social room at the church yesterday. The lovely pink flowers on the left were the subject of much conversation. No one remembers planting them, or seeing them before. In fact, everyone present remembered t hem as being an orange before? So dear readers… do these flowers have a habit of changing colours as they make their way through the growing cycle? I know that many of you are plants wonders….thoughts?

When you face difficulties, start with anything you can do. When you are able to grasp the situation, you will surely be able to notice something that you can do.

Perfect Liberty 2022.12

I am reminding everyone early, that on August 1st. we will be celebrating Founders’ Day (Kyososai), watch for announcements. Service is usually at 10 a.m. through this ceremony we rededicate ourselves to the teachings of PL (Perfect Liberty) and the realization of World Peace.

PL Precept # 1 Life is Art

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Lost Sunday on Monday

photo Shirley Keen, NZ

Where do days go that get lost? How come today is another day, yesterday was Sunday, did I miss it? I think not. It was a busy day, one of those days where it begins at 5:20 a.m. give or take… and the next thing you now its after 9 pm and you are tired, and ready for bed. Let me see, a friend got married Saturday evening, a lovely ceremony, I did the photos, posted them, and then.. yes, I got to bed at a reasonable hour, why did my day Sunday start so early? Guess I just won’t know where the day went, after all, it is time now to focus on today.

Babble, babble, chatter, a fleeting memory and then poof … its been replaced by some other idea/thought… pause.. review yesterday’s lesson …

It’s easier to adapt to something when we find it interesting. No matter how enjoyable a situation is, a slight change in our attitude can make it boring. let’s face any situation with curiosity and enthusiasm.

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Today is July 11., in PL (Perfect Liberty) the 11 th of every month is when we express our gratitude for the love and virtues of our ancestors and ask for their protection and guidance so we can continue to live the PL Way.

You can be with God by having a prayerful mind. Let’s pray for World Peace. We are all one big family. Let’s start by praying for the happiness of those around u.s

Perfect Liberty 2022. 11

I am forever grateful for all of you who share with me over the days, months and yes even years. Whether it is with your waves, hello/greetings, or the time you take to share your wonderful thoughts/experiences. Life is richer when we share, when we care about others, and when we grow in appreciation of the world around us and all that it has to offer.

“In the infinity of life, where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete.” Be open to the abundant flow of prosperity that the Universe offers. “My good comes from everywhere and everyone. All is well in my world” (Louise L. Hay)

NZ -Shirley Keen

Have a wonderful start to a new week.

Looks can be deceiving

A beautiful sunny day, the entrance to the site is still closed to visitors. The trees lie where they have fallen, the exposed roots lay bare for all to see. There is no access to the paths or the outdoor facility. Destruction is everywhere. The birds and wildlife are back to singing and going about their business, but to the human visitor, the paths are littered with fallen trees and branches. Very dangerous.

As I wandered on the outskirts of the debris.. I heard a chain saw. Curious I made my way back to the entrance, where a young woman had backed up her truck and was cutting away the limbs that were within her reach. She explained she was gathering up wood for the winter… some of it was obviously too green, but she said, it will be dry for next winter.

I am not an official of the conservation area, I could only caution her as to the risk she would be taking if she ventured into the woods.. I could understand her wanting to gather up the dead wood, her logic was that as people cleared up and put the fallen branches and tree parts to the curb.. there was so much of it, often it could not all be gathered up in one go. So she was in her own way, helping declutter. (her logic)

Since I myself collect fallen bits and pieces for my wood carving and whittling.. I could do nothing but smile and encourage her to be cautious. Life… is what it is…

Start by thinking “let’s do it” Once you decide to do something and put your whole heart into it, things will start moving forward.

Perfect Liberty 2022.8

Yes there is potential danger we had such a severe storm, and damage in areas is brutal. However, life is what it is and nature will continue to grow and recycle. I am drawn like a moth to a flame. I find comfort in being near and part of what IS. What will be, will be.. No more, no less.

Oyashikiri

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