I attended a wedding yesterday, the bride wore a beautiful white wedding gown, the groom and his best men were all dressed in a classic tux, bridesmaids all wore lovely gowns, it really was beautiful to see. The service took place in a lovely garden, the setting was perfect for the union of two people who so in love they have committed not only to themselves that they will love each other and enter into that very special bond of man and wife… they are now making that vow public, for their friends and the world to share in their happiness. The picture, the water, all so inviting.
When one looked beyond the pretty ambiance, fashion, decor, and “stage” settings, and took in the people and the overall vibe of the place, suddenly the picture wasn’t so pristine and pretty, it took on a different season, and the water was less inviting. Couples were not sitting in harmony with each other, they were many of them simply there. Some I knew were openly negative with each other. Others were simply there because it wasn’t “polite/right” to not be there.
Life is like a river that is always on the move, sometimes it is raging and driven with purpose, other times it is mellow and simply meandering, but always it is active.
A wedding ceremony to me is like a moment in the building of a bridge between two people. How well that bridge is built and then maintained will determine how long the two parties will remain connected.
Always however, they will be joined in the Universal bond of ONENESS, their roots will be forever entwined.
The cosmetics of the rituals that humans put on the sharing of one’s life with a partner or soul mate, or self defined.
The reality is, that we are all ONE.
How we reach out and interact with our other “selves” is very telling on where we are in our personal journey of growth.
Like a tree in the forest, we don’t always get to choose where we will sprout and grow, but grow we will, it will be the depth of our roots and the determination of our will, and our faith in our ability to grow that will see us survive.the test of time.
I am a firm believer that in using the word love ( a word that captures a lot of imagination, and can me so many different things to anyone who uses it) … LOVE … if we replace it to say ..in GOD, I will, or I am, our actions will be/would be entirely different, and our thought and commitment would also be different.
We all need air to breathe, and we all need love in our lives.
When we commit to being with someone, sharing our lives with that person, we are saying, you are the air that i breathe, the bridge between us is strong, and I will work very hard to maintain my part of the bridge. Our roots will grow stronger, and though we may not always see the same view in or of the forest, our roots will be forever entangled and our commitment to live together on this earth will be evidenced by the security and strength of our bridge.
Namaste – Oyashikiri