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Grieving

There is no expiring date on grief….grieving is something that happens and we have no control of how it will affect us or for how long we will live with the emptiness and sense of loss.

Its a door that just never closes… a pain that seeps into every nook and cranny of your being. Just when you think you’ve moved on, when you feel the sun on your face, or a chirping bird sits on your shoulder, yes there is that moment of awe and pleasure, but… it passes… then the shadow slips in, and you feel the burden of the pain, the emptiness of loss.

“Time heals” you hear it time and time again.. yet as the years go by, when you least expect it… a sliver of the cold grief wraps around your heart once again. There is nothing to be done… it will pass. It does, but let me tell you, from the moment the icicle begins to drips its glistening tear, you are engulfed in the hopeless feeling of loss. The shattered pieces of your heart lie like broken shard with edges that are still too sharp to even begin to pick up.

You can’t go back .. you can’t retreat, you can only accept and live through the moment. The more you seek solitude, the more it eludes you. Love that endures, love that wraps its tentacles into forever, is beautiful, but it has a cost. How many moments were squandered, lost to foolish pride/ego. The seasons will change. and yes, you will get by, you will live another day… But oh… how crippling the grief is when it comes to call.

Make today a memorable day. Let’s try to put our whole heart into whatever we say or do, as our unique signature.
Perfect Liberty 2022. 26

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sound of silence

Is there a sound to grief. When a loved one dies.. leaves our world leaving us to adjust to continuing on the journey on our own. No one told me of “grief attacks”or the immediate excruciating pain that can be triggered by a “memory”

I was not told to expect exhaustion and disruption, I was told that early grieving is perhaps the hardest work you will ever do.

Without your former companion, you no longer have a “mirror” to reflect back to you who you are and what you want in life. Now only you can furnish the answers by getting to know yourself.
-Dorothy Edgerton, ( learningto live alone)

We experience so many emotions after a loved one passes,when we think surely life is leveling … we are hit with an ongoing echo.. of loss, pain, and a fresh waves of grief.

Grieving requires an enormous energy, but pretending that you are not grieving requires even more.

It is important to say “Thank you” Everything that appears in front of you is all material for you to improve yourself whether it i’s food, people or things. Learn to accept everything, whether it is something you like or not.
Perfect Liberty 2020.9

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE NEVER GOES AWAY -it transforms from season to season. You may not always see or hear it. But like the steady beating of your heart, it lives within you and permeates all of you, forever and always

Oyashikiri.

A big thank you to my friends/family and love ones, who are reaching out to me. I love you.This moment of tears will pass.. Love heals.

photo – Dave Renz

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PL calendar day 15

Live with firm determination, that “this will turn out for the best” Everything in this world progresses and develops. Always be positive, knowing that everything will turn out for the best

Someone once asked me did I ever get tired of being a “Pollyanna” for those of you unfamiliar with that expression, it usually was used to describe someone who was always cheerful and looking for positives. I like being happy, and I work towards that goal. I sometimes miss the mark by a long mile and another times it takes only a smile to bring my happy back.

That does not mean that I don’t feel disappointment, and at times, totally sad and have no choice but to live through my emotion of that moment. It passes, meanwhile, my body, my mind needed that cleansing. PL Precept #5 One’s self is lost by being emotional Live the moment and move on.

PL Precept #1 Life is Art

PL Precept #7 Everything exists in relativity

PL Principle #2 I will not have complaints about others, matters nor the weather. Rather I will always be creative and will look for shortcomings in my own thinking and actions.

My love and appreciation to you all.

Oyashikiri

PL Precept #10 Love yourself and others

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Deep in the forest

Somewhere deep in the forest, the sound of suppressed weeping drifted with heartbreaking moans that left the little elf restless and frustrated. He wanted to help, he wanted to fly across the glen and offer his help. Sadly he knew, that the little maiden in such utter distress, had to let her sadness flow, let the grief that had over taken her, run its course.

Sometimes in life, we can hear the pain in a friend’s voice, or see the sadness in their eyes. We want to shout out or do something to make that pain go away. It is so hard to watch a friend suffer through their silent agony. A void, a memory, a shattering grief for what was, or could have been.

Some willingly give their hearts, only to find that the person that they trusted and believed in, was merely a “mistress” of their own making. It is so easy to build a life (storyline) around what we seek, and want in another person, that in doing so, we are blind to the person they really are.

No one is at fault. People live being who they are, If others build a fantasy around us, that is their journey, not ours.

In TAO/ life nothing is as simple or linear that what we see is what IS. A tree started out as a seed, the seed had to die to give birth to the shoot that will grow into a tree. We might look out over the vast expanse of ocean, with wonder and awe .. do we at the same time, see the total depth and breadth of the ocean from our vantage point…. no…we do not.

We do not live in a bubble. But it is easy for some to try to build walls, the deny others access to who we really are.

Just keep in mind, if are only presenting a portion of YOU, then you can’t expect the other person to respond in a manner that will speak to ALL of YOU

If we don’t know what we want, it is difficult to expect someone else to.

The crying had stopped, the world was silent, the population in the glen had resumed their comings and goings. the little elf, gathered up a small bouquet and headed out to visit his friend. Time for a hug. =^_^= there is a time and place for everything.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

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the artof animation.tumblr.com
cuded.com (art by sylphielmetallium)
imoyat.deviantart.com (forgotten by ellixus)

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I cried

I cried today

I cried yesterday

I could not stem the tears

for they had been waiting years

locked somewhere deep inside

somehow they found a way

to have their say

they were not bitter

simply sad

was there pain in the tears that rained

down my cheeks, one by one

leaving tear stains that betrayed

the sadness in my heart

I recognized the pain,

what I don’t understand is why…

why now ………

emotions, they are a way for the body to express feelings that have been locked away

we can hide from our”selves” for only so long, then when least expected, someone, or something touches the right button, and a door swings open.

the raw emotion of another time, place or experience comes to life and you are open and vulnerable to the lesson (challenge) you didn’t deal with before.

In life, we face a new day, every day, each one is unique and special, no two are the same, and no two people are alike.

It is when you admit to, and claim the pain, sadness, grief or sense of loss, that you finally regain a footing to understanding.

… we cope much better when have friends and loved ones who care, and lend support when we falter, they can’t respond to us though .. if we are silent about what is happening to us.

Crying is healing and revitalizing, it is part of life.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

*quiet mountain by Giovanni De Gregorio

**Lofoten islands, Norway

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the ticking of a clock

Loss and grief, at some time in our lives, we all come face to face with the pain of loss…. we feel engulfed in a sadness that reverberates in every miniscule part of our BEing. No words seem to penetrate into the core of the void. Vince Gill wrote the above song when his brother passed away, from his grief came a beautiful song that will be enjoyed for years to come..

Music is a universal language it has a voice/meaning for anyone who is open to the message. Interestingly the message/what is heard, may not have anything at all to do with the lyrics. I’ve seen myself how music will affect someone, and yet when asked how they liked the song, they heard only the music. In other instances I’ve heard people diss a song because of the words, they picked up on, their thought process never got past the words, At one time I wanted to share, so I tried to explain or have the person see or hear what I was hearing. didn’t work. We are all unique, just as no two people will interpret a dance the same way, each of us will respond in our own way to the ticking of a clock…

Just got a new clock (to me) I bought it because it looks like a retro old plastic radio clock of the 50’s/60’s, it ticks… all the other clocks in the house are quiet, i.e. on the computer. or are electric. There is something to be said about the rhythm of a ticking clock…. life is like a clock, it moves along a tick at a time, tick,toc, the seconds pass by. It is amazing how quickly life is given and/or taken away.

We grow by overcoming obstacles, one by one, tick, toc…. tick..toc.. Sometimes we feel that we are like a rock, we are going nowhere, we don’t see the sunshine, nor do we feel the rain, we exist. In PL we believe that we are alive, rain or shine, life is for living, we know sadness because we have been happy, the joy and passion of life is all around us, we need only move on to the next second on the clock. Trust in God, Believe, let go of what you think happiness is, enjoy the life that is yours and in you. Problems/challenges are opportunities.

Namaste – Oyashikiri

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Talent – sand (life IN art)

The first time I saw this artist, I was in awe, I had never seen anyone work in sand that way. Today I once again found it in my mailbox and thought to share it with you. Kseniya Simonova was on Ukraine’s Got Talent. The upload to YouTube was done in June 2009

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Esteban Patros via Google+

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Another person (Shirley Castillo Vanderau) has filled in the details on this fascinating performance by Ukrainian artist, Kseniya Simonova:

“In the semi-final of «Ukraine’s got talent», Kseniya Simonova was going to perform a sand story about the Great Patriotic War which she created in the memory of fallen soldiers who saved her country Ukraine from the Nazi. Kseniya refused the proposals of the producers to choose a more popular theme. She said: «I just want to bring some immortal sense to this show. Not just pictures or video clips. Something close to all hearts… It was also a tribute to my great-grandfather who heroically died in 1943 defending his Motherland». The sand story Simonova presented in live TV shooting of the semi-final was called «You are always nearby». It was an 8-minute live sand story of a young couple who were separated by the war. The young Lady and little Son were waiting for the Man to come from war, but he was killed. In the end he came to their window and watched them with a sight of love and hope. There was not a single emotion on the face of the performer. Simonova’s hands worked incredibly fast. Nobody knew what was going on in her soul. From the interview of Simonova: «It was so emotionally hard, and I now still cannot think about those minutes without pain… My hands were dyeing and reviving making the images.» Kseniya was hoping to get a little advertisement for her as an artist, but it turned an emotional bomb explosion. Almost the entire audience was in tears. Applause came down just after a minute after she finished her performance. Everyone in the hall applauded standing. Kseniya passed the semi-final and passed the final of the contest. In the third round, at Final, the sand story of Kseniya was about parents who gave birth to a son, the son has grown up, became successful and adult and forgot his old parents. Kseniya wanted the children to remember their father and mother — people who gave them lives — and call them. The resonance was enormous — people came to her in streets saying: «After watching your story, I took the phone and called my mom. I haven’t talk to for her a year. I called my mom after your story. Thank you very much! » Simonova said that these words were more than winning the show. During the interview with the judges in super-final, she said: «I’m not sure I want to win the show. But if a single person who didn’t call his Mom, will do it after my sand story — I will be more than a Winner!» the performance..Call your parents. ‘Don’t be late to see your parents alive.'”

We find inspiration in many ways, I hope that you found this sharing interesting and inspiring.

Namaste – Oyashikirti